Comment: Porn Kills Love

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Disclaimer: Anyone under the age of consent should not read this 

The subject that occupies millions of people’s lives, yet everyone is afraid to talk about it. It is the thing everyone watches, yet no one questions. It has become the norm. Never before in the history of the world have people watched as much porn as they do now.

In 2016 alone, (Pornhub) one specific website got 23 BILLION visits. That’s 729 people a second, or 64 million a day—nearly equal to the population of the United Kingdom.

This is due to the rise in internet pornography, this has facilitated the access to it. Our society has become obsessed with fulfilling our desires for love and intimacy, with fake versions of what love is. We settle for watching violent, abuse or perverse scenes online,as oppose to seeking meaningful connections with other human beings.

The problems of pornography are multifaceted. It goes beyond the impact on the individual and their brain. Social interactions, and society at large are affected.

Starting on the individual layer. When people watch porn, it causes secretion of the neurotransmitters dopamine (high/excited), serotonin (peaceful), vasopressin and oxytocin (love hormone). These are all naturally secreted when we feel love or spend time with loved ones. While watching porn there is an initial high, upon primary exposure. The sensation, creates a longing for more, so the behaviour is repeated. It is impossible to reach the initial high, so more extreme, perverse or abusive forms of porn are needed to trigger the same response.

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Over time this can lead to a dependency. Therefore, a porn addiction, is like any other one and must be treated in a way that addresses the underlying causes. Many times people become obsessed with it, because of an intense feeling of loneliness, and out of their desire for connection, they become hooked on something that gives them momentary happiness. The concern is that porn cannot replace real love. Therefore it will always leave the viewer unsatisfied.

There is a strong correlation between depression, low self esteem and frequent porn exposure. Children, nowadays as young as 11 are exposed to it. In the under 18 category, 22% of the viewers are under 11. Due to the developing brain they have, this can lead to an elevated risk of addiction.

Secondly, porn skews the view of reality. When people equate love with pornographic scenes, their values become distorted. Porn was never intended to be an accurate representation of what a loving, kind relationship looks like. Love and touch are basic human needs and help us grow. Porn does not make a better lover. In reality, it makes people more critical of appearance and less able to perform sexually. Furthermore, it increases the infidelity rate by 300%.

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People seek new and exciting relationships and are no longer dedicated to one person. This has also lead to our ‘smash and dash’ culture. Due to the violence depicted in pornography, there has been an increase in brutality and domestic abuse in the home. It impacts how and who we love. Sensuality and mutual consent are swallowed by the false messages porn instills in our societies youth. The amount of time people spend dedicated to watching it could be spent doing more productive, constructive activities.

Enough porn was watched in 2016 on this one website (pornhub) that all the data would fill 194,000,000 USB sticks. If you put the USB sticks end to end, they’d wrap all the way around the moon.

On a global scale, the porn industry is responsible for basic human rights violations. Human trafficking is intrinsically connected to porn. This means by watching porn, human trafficking and abuses are perpetrated.

Some people go as far as saying that porn is ‘rape for profit’. This statement is debatable but it is known that the actors in pornographic films are frequently abused and suffer from diverse physical and mental illnesses. These include substance abuse, acquisition of STD’s and even suicide. Pornography can be seen as filmed prostitution. The only difference being that prostitutes are paid to have sex and porn stars are paid to act. There is a shocking rise in the demand for child pornography and more abstract, alterations of sex.

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No previous generation has faced the issue of pornography the way our world does. We must be aware of its potential effects. In 2009 a non-profit anti-porn movement was started by the organisation  ‘fight the new drug’. They believe that ‘porn kills love’.I hope anyone who reads this will reconsider what they watch, because everything we take in shapes us in profound ways.

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http://fightthenewdrug.org/about/
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